Bitches Brew - Don't Drink the Haterade

Jun 4, 2014
by Amanda Batty  
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Haters. Downers. Shit talkers. Big mouths. Comedians. 'Friends'. Negativity comes in many, many forms and goes by many, many names, but it's always present and it can overwhelm us... if we allow it to. Whether it's lighthearted shittalking amongst friends, online comments and vitriol, or the everyday offhand cruelty, people being d*cks just seems to happen - it's a default for a lot of people. The kicker about negativity is that it often stems from a deeper unhappiness and dissatisfaction. "Misery loves company" is a well-known adage, but do we really internalize that part of it? Do we truly understand that if the 'hater' can bring everyone down to their level, they've successfully made themselves feel a bit better about whatever shitstorm is going on inside of their minds?

The art of negativity is funny to me, probably because I've experienced so much of it. Being a girl that's reasonably stubborn and who shoots for the moon when it comes to dreaming big, I'm on the receiving end of a lot of negativity and hate. Sometimes it's in the form of criticism, or in the spirit of 'who the hell are YOU?', but I can tell you this: it NEVER is about me. Okay, scratch that. It's mostly never about me. Sometimes I've truly pissed someone off and rather than punch me in the face they're content to tear me down, and that sucks, but it's probably a little deserved. Most often, it's not about me. Whatever I'm doing that someone is criticizing or hating on is generally my own business and they're just looking for a fight. Sometimes I willingly oblige; I won't lie. Occasionally I'll lower myself into that sinkhole and give them exactly what they want (and usually deserve) in a verbal diatribe. However, the older I get, the more I've realized that staying above the fray is a lot easier in the long run. Giving a grin and a chuckle (even when I'd rather pull my teeth out than smile) not only infuriates the hater and discredits the substance of whatever negativity they're throwing out, but it usually helps get my mind back to where it needs to be - on the task at hand.

Flipping the bird in total silence...one of the most intimidating heckle methods for lift users. Especially families
Don't let the haters get you down.

I've had a lot of shit talked to me about a lot of stuff, but especially my riding and racing. Honestly? It cracks me up. At first I didn't find it so humorous because I actually believed the awful things people said about my goals and dreams, but then I had a good friend literally shake me one morning before a race. He grabbed my shoulders, looked me dead in the eye and asked, "Why do you ride? Why do you race? What are you trying to prove? Who are you trying to impress?"

In that moment, I realized that I'd entirely forgotten why I ride my bike. The chatter and radio nonsense surrounding me had so completely taken over my airwaves that riding had become a source of pressure and stress for me instead of what it actually is: my greatest passion. The STRAVA segment times, the talk about my racing and what I was and wasn't doing right as an 'athlete' and all of the background noise had created a monster out of the sport I love; in that moment, I looked him back in the eyes and said, "Because I love bikes."

What I've learned from that experience is just how easy getting caught up in the daily mediocrity of life is. It's a quick descent into a negative collective and the opinions and comments that exist therein, but staying honest and passionate and excited and enthusiastic is the key to happiness - do what you love until it's not fun anymore and then move on. Do you, and nothing else will matter.

Laura Rossin lives close by in Genova so one of her friends dropped in today to come and do the climb up to the first stage of the day with her.
Surrounding yourself with people who support your passion makes everything a little easier.

Now, I'm not an advice guru by any stretch of the imagination, but I am a human and I was told to write something. So here you go: if you love bikes, go ride your goddamn bike until your knuckles bleed and your feet fall off. If you love to race and want to do it professionally, sign up. Ride that bike as fast as you can and don't worry about the win or placing or beating your friends. Just go out to beat yourself. If you want to jump the shit out of some big kickers or compete at Rampage or do the world's first supersonic backflip-superman combo, set out and do it.

Find people who support you, who love you, and who will always have your back, even when you're out of line. Surround yourself with the kind of stuff that makes you a better person, people and hobbies that push you. Never, ever, ever let anyone convince you that what you're doing and who you are is a waste. Ignore the haters, because they'll always exist. There will always be someone out there who will hate you for standing up for something, and who would crucify you for staying silent. There will always be that one person who attacks you for being unique and then there will be someone else who will bash you for blending in. There are so many haters out there, and they'd all have us believe that we suck.

Guess what? We don't. We're rad. And we are funny and smart and capable and inspiring and wonderful and extraordinary. To hell with the haters. Do your own thing and then pass the positivity forward.

Don't believe the hype.




123 Comments

  • 247 2
 My relationship of over 5 years...the woman I was supposed to marry did not support my DREAM and PASSION of opening a Mountain Bike Tour company...she wanted me to continue on with my career and sit in front of a computer all day, everyday, for the rest of my life...and to think...I almost abandoned the idea to be with her...after some hardship and pain...look at me now...proud owner of a Mountain Bike adventure company...DEFINITELY, do not drink the haterade! The company motto was built on this personal event that happened to me...To Live, Not Exist...
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Excellent article Amanda!
  • 32 1
 Everybody has dreams and most don't become reality, but you sir! You sir, brought light to my day. So many dreams, expectations that I never thought possible. If I ever have the chance to go on your tour or you for some reason end up in my neck of the woods, I wanna treat you to some good fun riding, food, and then a beer at my house.
  • 22 1
 If you have a dream than go for it...Don't ever let anybody else tell otherwise. Life is too short to spend it doing something you hate just for money...

"Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life"
-Confucius

I will definitely take you up on that offer Lane! And shoot us a message if you're ever in our area!! Us Canadians will return your hospitality ten fold!!
  • 13 0
 @MostEpicAdventures, Congrats! I was fortunately on the flipside of that coin. My current girlfriend of 8 years supports my desire to race mountain bikes and moved with me earlier this year to Denver, Colorado. Although I must say, if she did NOT decide to move up here with me, then I would be single here in Denver! Good on you man!
  • 11 0
 @prestonDH - that is great to hear! Hang on to that girl man! Life is so much better/easier with the support and love of your friends and spouse. I am still in search of this magical unicorn who will come with me to the mountains every chance they get! *wink wink* ladiiiiiiiies :p
Good luck in your racing career man! Train hard!!
  • 20 166
flag christianown242 (Jun 4, 2014 at 15:23) (Below Threshold)
 This was so cute, I love it when woman try to sound important. There's nothing I love more than reading a poorly written article from a woman who is talking about "haters" it's kind of like the Seneca falls convention where nobody gave a shit.
  • 43 2
 Total f*#king douche @ the guy above me
  • 7 0
 I read this on my computer... At work... Frown
  • 14 1
 @christiandown242, I thought it was a well written and articulate piece. If you're going to criticise someone's writing, at least make it constructive. In case you hadn't figured it out, women are as important as men; it's pretty hard to exist without them!
  • 5 0
 Could he be attempting an ironic joke? Because of the subject matter of the article, it could be sarcasm, and they still don't have a font for that on the internet.
  • 4 0
 I would've married you - you most epic dude you!!! - I'm in the progress of changing too - get out of this F*cking office and go get that dream!
  • 2 0
 *please don't feed the trolls*
  • 1 0
 ^@si618
  • 4 0
 (: Can I poke them with a stick?
  • 1 0
 Lol its so funny; me too. I work all week just whaithing for ride weekends.
  • 1 0
 You sir are awesome!
  • 5 0
 God damn! Sir you are my light, i need to decide... go to army or join bike company, interested in both... army is more realistic but i love bikes...
  • 3 0
 @ MostEpicAdventures....I to had a crazy bitch girlfriend once
  • 3 0
 Congrats, MostEpicAdventures! And I will be plastering your Moto all over my biking and climbing equipment.
  • 27 1
 "Why do you ride? Why do you race? What are you trying to prove? Who are you trying to impress?"

I think that's something a lot of people tend to forget, especially on the racing side of things. A bunch of the "hate" I see is from people with inflated egos or trying to defend their egos. I know this because I have a better and bigger ego than any of you! I'm the best, I make Wade Simmons look like Grant Allen after he tried sending the Gillard road gap!

But really though, well done. The other write-ups I've seen about this subject are people doing the same thing- acting like victims and complaining about how people are mean. This actually contributes something.
  • 4 1
 My answers to those questions revolve around my doing my absolute best, for me, no one is harder to impress. I don't win races (yet), but I sure as hell try, one day I will, even if it's an over 70s cx race.
If people don't agree, f**k them, it's my goal and they can't take it from me.
  • 9 1
 I honestly don't think this contributes anything. You end up just beating down dissenting opinions and becoming a "hater" yourself. It is too hierarchal a way of thinking, surprisingly jock-ish. I find it cocky.
  • 2 0
 There's definitely a fine line for sure because it's hard to give credence to the notion of rising above it when you spend so much time thinking and writing about it... also it's hard to not sound cocky if you're writing about yourself. On the other hand, it's something a lot of people feel strongly about so she's not alone and kinda really laying it out there and let's be honest, we're all cocky to some extent. Personally I've received death threats it got so bad (brought it upon myself being a "troll") at one point and just ignoring it does the trick... unless they succeeded and I'm already dead but don't know it yet and you're all just walking projections of my mind trapped in purgatory.
  • 2 0
 @scott-townes: nice old-school freeride metaphor
  • 3 0
 I like the article, and will file it under Wisdom Wednesdays.
  • 2 0
 I always like to think I'm not dead yet scott. Kudos.
  • 1 0
 "A bunch of the "hate" I see is from people with inflated egos or trying to defend their egos"

I guess it depends on your perspective. I think a bunch of hate is TO people with inflated egos. People that are self-promoters, step on toes, think they're better than they are at "whatever", etc. naturally attract criticism. I'm not saying it's justified, just that it happens.
  • 23 4
 Good read. Thanks again.. I try to be positive but I just hate lycra. I've tried counseling but to no avail... Draper has turned into a lycra fest and I just have to laugh--that's positive right?! Thanks again!
  • 22 0
 I can't hear anyone when I'm riding
  • 4 1
 Sometimes you can hear the little sh*theads "heckling" on the side of the track as you go by. Some people just love an opportunity to be mean.
  • 1 0
 Luckily not really where I ride....but I don't r pay attention
  • 5 0
 Excusethe random r
  • 5 0
 Wow, I really can't type
  • 13 0
 I'm gonna listen to Miles Davis' Bitches Brew now
  • 11 1
 I really dont get this wischiwaschi-be-possitive-to-all-and-everybody thing.

Negativity is what drives and motivates me ...nothing else .To show I can do it anyway. I still can be a positive human beeing, though Smile .
  • 4 0
 Cant agree more. When people outside the sport tell me mtb is sissy sport because they dont know anything about mtb its motivates me so much to ride harder. Its funny when i out out a video of me ripping way harder and going bigger than they ever will doing what they do
  • 5 0
 Nothing like a good cup of bitches brew to get you motivated
  • 3 0
 No doubt, you just try and tell me I can't do something! Actually please tell me so I get so mad I can't help but prove you wrong.
  • 15 0
 You can't eat a spoonful of cinnamon and post the video on here.
  • 8 0
 I know alot of non bikers who hate on my riding saying mountain biking is lame. But they dont do much more than watch tv i just ignore them and try to have people who are not ignorant in my life it makes life alot better. Fuck the haters
  • 2 0
 Pretty sure you don't need those people in your life.
  • 2 0
 I work in academia and receive s**t all the time for riding hard. But I could careless. You have to ignore the be and go ride.
  • 20 14
 Two things: you can dis someone, you can kick him in the nuts and that is ok, kill his/her mom if you wish but never ever cut wings. A good man will try to set you straight, never put down on the ground. Cutting wings, killing spirit should be punished by cutting off balls or clitoris.

Thing nr2 call me a hater, but according to my theory "haters gunna hate" is a selfidentification practice for an imbecile. Someone who cannot appeciate critical thinking usualy draws out the word hater pretty quickly..

Good read again
Cheers!
  • 3 0
 I hear you... I hate what Stefan did to Maleficent.. Frown
  • 2 0
 Is it just me, or are these statements from WAKIpedia shocking?
  • 4 0
 Amanda, thank you. Your article hit my wife and I exactly when we needed it. We both try to be chin-up, positive people, but sometimes life (people) manage to wiggle just enough negativity, doubt, and stress into your life to slowly sap away the positive flow.
Thanks for helping our day!
  • 3 0
 Hey, hearing this made MY day. Sometimes it can be tough to keep the PMA going and we need a reminder. Thanks for helping remind me why I write. Wink You rock.
  • 3 0
 Hate is just something that needs to be taken in and turned into determination to go beyond our limits. Once you let others convince yourself that your a no good is the moment you lose the idea of who you are. I say take it in smile and stare right back in their ugly faces an say "f*ck You". Then you will truly see the greatness your capable of pushing yourself to becoming.
  • 1 1
 Ahhhh, so true!
  • 7 1
 Thats why I love you batts! My little ball of positivity!
  • 2 0
 Great article. While there is plenty of positivity in the mountain biking community, sometimes the negativity becomes too apparent and is difficult to ignore. Amanda's exactly right - simply remembering why biking is great seems to solve plenty of the problems. Negativity perpetuates negativity, and the only way out of it that I've found so far is by being around people that just want to bike and could care less about why other people are grumpy or upset.
  • 1 0
 I like your style!
  • 3 1
 Sometimes people are dumb. Sometimes their ideas are really stupid. Sometimes people are real ignorant. Sometimes people are headed for a future of disaster that could be easily avoided if somebody would just tell them what they are doing is wrong or bad. Maybe they didn't pay attention in school. Maybe they didn't have any role models growing up. Maybe they put too many drugs in their face holes. Maybe they're parents were also dumb and passed on their dumb genes to their stupid children. Maybe their mommies didn't read to them enough or help them with their homework. Maybe dumb people with stupid ideas constantly doing dumb shit need somebody in their lives to enlighten them.

Constantly crushing somebody's dreams is a bad thing. Constant criticizing is annoying. Having that one gloomy friend moaping around always seeing the negative in everything can drag you down. "but maybe... MAYYYYYBBBEEE..." [Loius CK voice] a little hateful reality check is good for some people sometimes.
  • 4 1
 Good point, but whose job is that 'reality check'? And what may seem insane to you might make perfect sense to someone else...

I know this -- Thomas Edison was told that electricity would never catch on by many people. He was called an idiot, and a fool. So were Galileo, and Carnegie, and Beethoven. Maybe we're not always omniscient, and maybe none of us has the right to dole out 'reality checks' to anyone else...

Just maybe. However, 'hate' and advising a good friend that setting himself on fire are two very different animals. Wink
  • 4 1
 hahaha yesssssssssss!

"I don't know what your generation's fascination is with documenting their every thought... but I can assure you, they're not all diamonds."
"Roman is having an OK day and got a Coke Zero at the gas station? Raise the roof? I mean, who gives a rat's ass!"
"Roman got a Coke Zero a-gggaaaaiinnnn!?!?! That Roman... incorrigible!"
  • 3 0
 Hey Pinkbike any chance I can get a copy of that photo of Ed on the rock in my psychedelic aloha top? It was a bloody miracle we managed to get that top to Mt St Anne for him in time. Thanks.
  • 3 0
 www.pinkbike.com/photo/9984009 - you'd have to email Paris for usage rights: paris@parisgore.com
  • 2 0
 well said amanda! i live pretty much in a haters house and suuuuucks, half my friends don't understand why i love riding or skiing because they do nothing, so the only way to stay on float is to set the example, be strong minded and be freakkin happy hahaha once you achieve that good people will come and everything will be easier. be the person you wanna be and everything will come together, even my gf hated my love for sports..... now she loves going for a ride with me and skiing too. i guess being stubborn as F&%$" pays some times, i mean strong minded hahaha

cheers
Salute
  • 2 0
 I went through a similar thing with forgetting why I actually ride. So I took a break from it, removed the haters from my life. Now I'm back and fully stoked on bikes again for all the right reasons! I still have some of my old friends from before who are always down for a session, and a fair few new ones too! Get out on your bike and ride, if the people around you are negative then find somewhere else to ride with new people and just occasionally go back to where those negative people are to be with the few there who support you and laugh at those haters who are so busy talking shit that they forgot what fun was a long time ago.
  • 2 0
 I had a bike shop in Brazil, one year ago I closed it and sold my bikes to come to Canada to follow my dream, be a professional bike mechanic of a team, a lot of people told me that it is impossible and I should give up, and I thought to give up many times, but my passion for bikes is immense and I will never give up! doesn't matter what, eventually I will get there!
  • 2 0
 Never give up, not ever. You got this, and the world needs more passionate people -- passionate people change the world. Go you. Wink
  • 2 0
 "Why do you ride? Why do you race? What are you trying to prove? Who are you trying to impress?"
For me, the answers would be "Because I love it. (I don't race). I don't try to prove anything. Myself"
Yeah, really, if you do "X" to impress someone or to prove something, you're probably no happy with "yourself". I see a lot of people that aren't happy with who they are, what they do - they fall into one of two categories: those who buckle under the load an those who bully the first group. I wouldn't consider the bullies to by any better than the other category.

When you discover that you don't need to prove anything, that you don't need to impress everyone, is when you will find true happiness. Go ride, go live your life, and enjoy.
  • 1 0
 Excellently said!
  • 2 0
 Good article Amanda. I've found haters in everything I've done...work, sports, church, whatever. I think most of the time it stems from jealousy and/or just plain ole human competitive spirit that is carried at little too far. Maybe someone thinks you shouldn't be able to do the same things that they do because you are a girl or you are too old or you work harder than they do and they are too lazy to put in the work. Whatever it is I believe you should either ignore them and go on and do what you love or use that hate to fuel you even farther on. Look forward to your next writeup.
  • 2 0
 Thanks Amanda, Some times the forest is in fact lost in the depth of the trees! Haters gunna Hate so turn a deaf ear and know you are doing what makes You Happy! Yay Bikes!
  • 2 0
 Yay, bikes! Excellently said. Wink
  • 2 0
 The only thing I hate on is people who can't live in the moment and be present with what there doing at the time. Seems there is much more of that going on in the world then hate
  • 3 0
 I couldn't give a f*ck what other riders/shop knobbers think. If they've not got the balls to say it to my face, then their opinion is null and void.
  • 5 1
 Really enjoyed this article
  • 3 1
 Haha I love your style of writing it's just zero sugarcoating. You clearly adressed this article to all of "us", that requires some balls
  • 2 1
 "Surrounding yourself with people who support your passion makes everything a little easier."

Of course. Just don't surround yourself with Single Speeders, especially those who ride rigid. They're.... different
  • 1 0
 with the photo on hecklers rock, are they the bad guys for picking on people on the lifts for having rental bikes, or are they the good guys sticking there fingers up and being defiant?
  • 3 0
 Don't drink the Haterade. Drink Brawndo. It's got what plants crave. It's got electrolytes.
  • 1 0
 Good read. I think in all of that "finding people who support you, who love you, and who will always have your back" is the hardest part.
  • 2 0
 Well, thank you. Smile And finding good people that always have your back takes a while... A long while. And sometimes even after a long while, they don't support us. And it sucks. But doing what we're passionate about will lead us to other supportive people, and bonds are created. Smile Keep pushing at it!
  • 3 0
 Everyone on that rock love bikes, and DH!
  • 3 0
 Damn straight they do! Smile
  • 2 0
 A case for Sigmund perhaps, "Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise"
  • 3 1
 Ambatt..... All I can say is spect......
  • 2 0
 Wise words This brews for you!
  • 2 0
 Live the way you want to be remembered
  • 1 0
 Such wise words. Wink
  • 3 0
 That's a promise my brothers & I made to each other right before cancer took my younger brother. Really enjoyed your article. I need reminders like that. All the best to you! Stay passionate!
  • 1 0
 I'm so sorry about the loss of your brother. That's never easy; it is indeed an excellent reminder to live everyday as though we're writing our legacy. Thank you for the reminder! Smile
  • 1 0
 I really kinda hoped this was going to be a bitching article by Brian Lopes.
  • 2 0
 well written, nailed it :-)
  • 2 0
 People wake up! This is more GoPro marketing! hehe
  • 2 0
 "To hell with the haters!" Just do you!" Awesome article....
  • 2 0
 Treat others as you too would like to be treated.
  • 2 0
 Go! Excellent point of view!
  • 2 0
 Amen.
  • 2 0
 Well said.Agreed.
  • 2 0
 What's up Bitches!!
  • 4 7
 Most useless article ever to make the front page... and that's saying a lot in light of c*ntingham's recent "how to be a douchebag on the trail" write up. This was literally a page about tears. HTFU Pinkbike, Rule #5.
  • 4 2
 No, it wasn't. In fact, nowhere in this entire article did I once mention crying. This is about chasing dreams and doing what inspires us, NO MATTER WHAT, even when people are uselessly awful on the internet behind a screen name while they (obviously) have nothing valuable to add to the conversation.

Oh, wait. Maybe you should read it again? Or just write your own article full of awesomeness? Or hey! Go ride your bike. Yeah. That's cool, too.
  • 4 7
 Oh look... more tears. How predictable.

Your entire article can be summed up thusly:

"Boo hoo... people hate on me so I tell myself it's not cause I suck, it's cause they suck... I'm really awesome. I swear I am, and you are too. Oh yeah, I like to ride bikes. Boo hoo."

Ever think that maybe people hate on you cause you're a f*cking whiner? Who gives a shit if people wanna hate? If you love riding your bike, how about less writing and more riding so the rest of us aren't subjected to your overly emotional pity parties.
  • 7 3
 Ha ha ha ha... Wow! You're whining about my whining about your whining bitchiness? Now THAT is just too funny. I suppose irony just skips your bus stop, doesn't it?

Maybe you should write a cute, whiny letter to the editors of Pinkbike telling them that my 'whine' fests make you cry... Just so they can have a good laugh, too.
  • 4 3
 Not often i agree with leroy but this is the exact impression I got from the article
  • 5 1
 Look at the "big boys" spitting... Are you guys hurt because you recognized yourself in the text? One thing I'll never understand about DH, Freeride, Enduro, etc. - why must it always be about who has the biggest balls of them all?

I personally take amusement from guys like you. Here's another one that fits you perfectly:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EzDRpkfaO4
  • 3 1
 About 2000 years ago, some guy was sent to this earth and told everyone to be nicer to each other, so they nailed him to a cross, according to the most popular hero myth the world has ever seen. badbadleroybrown and bigburd are two of the most prominent trolls on this site. They hate everything, and make sure everyone knows it. I agree with this article somewhat, but there is a place to give people an honest reality check. With only 1 in 50,000 high school athletes making the pro ranks, skepticism is realistic. The driven, hard working individuals stand out though.
  • 4 2
 www.velominati.com/the-rules/#5

Rule # 43: Don't be a jackass!
  • 1 1
 Wow, didn't realize Batty was so easy to get into a petty little shit throwing match.
  • 1 0
 ......
  • 1 0
 Well said.
  • 1 0
 Well said!
  • 2 3
 I think Elliot Rodger could have used her advice.
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