Good reaction by Dan Wolfe to empathically offer her a way out of that painful moment with a hug - instead of just being frozen and awkward or pushing on with more questions.
Isabeau, I have no idea if you read these comments or not, but I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I lost mine last year and could barely get off the sofa for 3 months. My heart goes out to you for the loss, and my admiration is immeasurable for being able to pull yourself together and get the win.
@DylanH93: It's framed that way but it would have been enough to commend her and express admiration for her mental and psychological resilience. Once the person used it as a vehicle to talk about themselves, it became something else, intentionally or not. But I voted you and @frankwizza up because you put forward, what you believe to be, objective counterpoints.
@pedro46:A) That's not the point so why wish that on someone else? (That kind of hostility seriously borders on sociopathic) Why parade your personal loss in attempts to legitimize your opinion, especially to someone you consider beneath you? (narcissistic and also sociopathic)
@sonuvagun: @sonuvagun: isn't it narcissistic or egotistic to use someone else's heartfelt story as an opportunity to shame them for how you perceived their comments?
@sonuvagun: Someone shares a story of loss, in relation to a person in the article sharing their story of loss, and you try to call them out for being narcissistic, based on your assessment. you might not be a narcissist yourself, but you are definitely without any self awareness and lacking any sort of acceptable decorum. colorful vocabulary won't help you, you're still a dick. If sharing personal stories that relate to the larger story in discussion is narcissistic, then sharing in any sort could be labeled as such, by your shitty standards.
@TotalAmateur: Oh no, I'm very aware but I don't care what the majority think in this matter. Sharing is fine, but why use another person's triumph to suddenly talk about your own losses?
@sonuvagun: the difference is, everybody reading this thinks you're the dick. I'll ignore your trolling now, well done for getting so many people to react. Probably the highlight of your sad little day
@blackpudding: Vote ups or downs, or opinions of others seem to matter to you, but not me.
What you're currently upset about is that a stranger is able to see your petty motivations for what they are. Go get out there and devote your time to someone or something else.
You haven't written anything about the original post, so probably, you're looking for an unpopular (soft) target. It's the mark of a coward. You and I both know you're afraid of physical confrontation.
Take up boxing, judo, or wrestling, you will be surprised at how your confidence grows in a couple years. You'll be much less of a follower. Good luck.
@sonuvagun: it's called 'relating', something humans do when displaying empathy. if you were as smart as you are trying to seem you would know that. If Isabeau hadn't lost her father and just won the race, and OP brought up his dead father, then you might have a point. But it her loss was a huge part of the story, so I'm actually confused how you are so obtuse that you think someone relating to such a crucial part of the story is somehow being 'selfish'. You've either never had a conversation with someone or are purposely being ignorant so you can maintain some false sense of moral superiority so you can continue to scold OP.
@sonuvagun: as someone who does judo, muay thai, and bjj, you should just shut the f*ck up. You need a lesson in humility more than anyone in this thread needs a confidence boost. hmu I'm happy to provide that lesson
@TotalAmateur: One practice takes at least 2 hrs when you factor in driving both ways , changing, showering, etc. So it's likely you've embellished your c.v. or you're dabbling in them. I could be wrong, but people like to lie... The point is blackpudding knows I can read him. It's not possible to explain my thinking to you any more than exists in my first reply. Westerners dress their narcissm as empathy all the time. Everything is an opportunity to speak about themselves. Look at you, looking for some pretext to call yourself billy bad-ass- perfect example of a narcissist. Best of luck with your busy schedule.
@sonuvagun: lol dude bottom line, you are trying to come off as some intellectual but somehow even with your supposed 'heightened awareness of the self', you still don't recognize something as basic as empathy? How can you even display empathy without some reference to your feelings? You've literally gone through such lengths to seem smart and you continually dig yourself deeper in the hole of 'I misunderstood something but I refuse to acknowledge it'. You are the narcissist you despise, which means I'm guessing there are no mirrors in that padded cell of yours. re-read your comments. You criticize someone using a personal moment to relate to the story, calling them a narcissist, while never realizing that you are using someone else's suffering/empathy to try to boost your ego. the irony is f*cking nauseating.
@TotalAmateur: If someone writing in coherent sentences steers you to that conclusion then that's none of my concern. Anyhow, I'm glad you found time in your busy schedule, what with your: bjj, judo, and muay thai schedule I'm not saying you don't do those activities, but you can't to any high degree unless they are you're only activities. The toll they take to do at a high level requires a lot of recovery time.
I did not for a second pretend that I misunderstood anything, so you're wrong. Why you've stated that is an indication you yourself have experience in doing as much.
Yes, I openly criticized the person because not everything is a f'ng platform to talk about ourselves. You give your admiration, you take your hat off to the star, but you don't start babbling on about your own loss. Another person's spotlight isn't the place for it. But if you're also a narcissist then you may not be able to process that concept.
Suffering isn't and shouldn't be used as social currency. You have a society where people vie for attention and credibility based on their claimed suffering and it's due, in part, to what I've explained to you.
If I were concerned with upvotes and positive online opinions from total strangers then I would attempt to pander to people. I'm not so I don't.
@sonuvagun: 'not everything is a platform to talk about ourselves' he said on a community platform designed for discussion of current events of the cycling world. LMFAO, you're an idiot dude. And you think 2 hrs a day is so draining on my schedule that you have to call BS, or insinuate it? Just goes to show what a physical weakling you are, on top of a mental weakling. Keep trying to justify your ignorance, narcissism, and weird superiority complex. meanwhile I suggest googling empathy since you haven't responded to any of the points that would force you to examine your actions, only try to justify them by further attacking me and others. You are a sad, sad little person. and you have my pity.
@sonuvagun: "You give your admiration, you take your hat off to the star, but you don't start babbling on about your own loss. Another person's spotlight isn't the place for it. But if you're also a narcissist then you may not be able to process that concept." Except a large part of the story is about their loss, and OP was empathizing by stating what an incredible feat it is to accomplish something like this, given the weight of the loss. You really are so freaking clueless. How about this, comment in the way that you feel is appropriate, and let others do the same! Nobody cares about your opinion, and you aren't the comment police. You have an overinflated sense of importance that makes you think anyone even gives a shit about your opinion or condemnation. And yet you still can't grasp what kind of narcissistic pedantic a*shole you are being. f*cking Kek.
@TotalAmateur: Now, now, Nancy you're getting yourself worked up and saying nothing in the process. I didn't tell that person what to or not to say. You probably try to bully others with such tactics in-person. It leads me to surmise you're big and dumb and people can't stand it when you get emotional...which is often.
The explanation given to you was to help you understand but you done gone and got lost in the single additional detail, which was only provided to help you differentiate authentic praise from manipulative-let's-turn-the-spotlight-to-me praise. To reiterate, "you" doesn't always hold meaning of the second person, sometimes it is means the same as "people in general."
Ask yourself why you are here, trying to dictate to a total stranger what they can or can't write according to how see fit, all while claiming no one cares what the stranger wrote. Maybe you're trying to express control in an aspect of life because you eat too much and can't control that?
I invite you to have the last word, my melon-headed antagonist.
@sonuvagun: lol nothing but personal attacks, and continued zero awareness. I honestly feel sorry for you, I hope you find the validation you are so desperately seeking, albeit surreptitiously.
@sonuvagun: lol you either don't know what that word means or are just playing dumb at your obvious attempts to seem intelligent. you might think you're coming off as effortlessly intelligent but trust me to 100% of the people in this thread, it's painfully obvious how desperately you're seeking some sort of engagement. here this might help you: duckduckgo.com/?q=surreptitiously+definition&atb=v246-1&ia=definition
@sonuvagun: you are using some bs cause of 'pointing out narcissism' to feed your own ego and feign ignorance at an obvious display of empathy. You can't address this or it would reveal you don't understand empathy, or you were just mistaken originally. You try to act like all you're doing is calling out 'selfishness' but that isn't fooling anyone as your selfish motivations are plain to see, and easy to read. I know you'll try everything to debase this claim by attacking me, my choice of vocabulary, or some other non-issue, but the fact remains you are obviously a narcissist that is self loathing so much so that you seek to vilify other people without any ability to recognize your own blind egotistical ramblings. I take it back, it's not pity I have for you, it's scorn.
@sonuvagun: and as fun as it might be to spar with someone half your size and with only a modicum of the same skill, it's now become tedious and boring. so long little angry troll man.
@TotalAmateur: The definition does not fit the context in which you've attempted to use it. There was nothing covert about my comment and my expectation was most people would not agree.
You sought out engagement with me, not the other way around. Your opinion of me is none of my business.
My intent wasn't to come off as intelligent, it's just you're really really easy to read. You're big, kind of fat, accustomed to imposing himself and his opinions on others, and it's now clear you run from your fears.
@sonuvagun: thinking of anyone fearing you is as laughable as thinking anyone would respect you, lol. Now you have to cope by imagining me as some big fat dude? COPE. lol. it was funny at first now it's just sad, you're the Biden of pinkbike. (i.e nobody respects you and we're all laughing AT you, not with)
@TotalAmateur: Work on your reading comprehension, as there was absolutely nothing in what I wrote which should have led you to that interpretation. You can't stop being wrong, and it bothers you that you can't bully another person into giving in, this is what you normally do in life unless you view another person as a physical threat. Maybe you get your self-worth when you think anonymous strangers "respect" you, that's your problem.
And I wrote "kind of fat," which you clearly are, now, please, go take a crap then tell everyone about it until they give you the respect you deserve.
@sonuvagun: lol damn you're still going? try to convince me I'm not living rent free in that empty head of yours lol. btw not even reading your responses anymore as it's easy enough to trigger you without lolol
@DylanH93: maybe he is maybe he isn't. Doesn't matter to me much. But Once you are caught cheating all of your achievements are now in question. I'd rather watch someone that's not a cheater
Yeah, from what he said it kinda sounded like his endurance or fitness level wasn't quite there. Looking at the times I was expecting a mechanical or crash or something. Absolutely no offence to Sam.
@Linc: exactly.....if you look at WC DH tracks how much is bike park and non-tech as well. Enduro prob has the most %age, but then ruin the original concept by allowing increased amounts of training and practice on stages. unfortunately for general riding very few places that offer just tech, natural riding exist.. most want bmx tacks in the bush.. //
If you take a close look, you have to be concerned about the direction enduro is developing...
Keep the core values during riding like creativity, spontaneity, improvising, individuality...a lot of things Sam stands for
@kcy4130: Yeah, but Enduro has to be it's own sport - it can't just be 20mins of DH racing. You don't want a DH guy to just rock up and win because it takes away something from the efforts of the Enduro specialists. So they have to differentiate. Only 1 practice run, some climbs, longer stages, tight switchbacks, etc. I prefer it when it's unassisted uplifts too, but that's just me
Looks like it's a loose tank top with a skin tight base layer underneath for the arms - pretty cool concept. Seven MX do loads of jerseys like this, wonder if they're making the Yeti clothing this year?
@lews-therin: having just watched the highlights I see what you mean. I don’t know if the skinsuit rules are the same as in DH but Rude and the team look to have an advantage on the rest of the field there. Plus I thought it was one of the best looking race outfits.
It was on GMBN tech, wasn't a heat shrink but looked like one of those foam tubes you put over cable housings inside frames to stop rattles from internal routing cables
Narcissism 101: use another's accomplishments to talk about yourself.
But I voted you and @frankwizza up because you put forward, what you believe to be, objective counterpoints.
You've strung a few random terms together because you want upvotes, which you equate to approval (from total strangers).
It’s happened to me and it’s not nice , twat
Why parade your personal loss in attempts to legitimize your opinion, especially to someone you consider beneath you? (narcissistic and also sociopathic)
TLDR; you are a dick.
Sharing is fine, but why use another person's triumph to suddenly talk about your own losses?
What you're currently upset about is that a stranger is able to see your petty motivations for what they are. Go get out there and devote your time to someone or something else.
You haven't written anything about the original post, so probably, you're looking for an unpopular (soft) target. It's the mark of a coward. You and I both know you're afraid of physical confrontation.
Take up boxing, judo, or wrestling, you will be surprised at how your confidence grows in a couple years. You'll be much less of a follower. Good luck.
You've either never had a conversation with someone or are purposely being ignorant so you can maintain some false sense of moral superiority so you can continue to scold OP.
TLDR; stop being such a massive dick.
It's not possible to explain my thinking to you any more than exists in my first reply. Westerners dress their narcissm as empathy all the time. Everything is an opportunity to speak about themselves. Look at you, looking for some pretext to call yourself billy bad-ass- perfect example of a narcissist.
Best of luck with your busy schedule.
the irony is f*cking nauseating.
I did not for a second pretend that I misunderstood anything, so you're wrong. Why you've stated that is an indication you yourself have experience in doing as much.
Yes, I openly criticized the person because not everything is a f'ng platform to talk about ourselves. You give your admiration, you take your hat off to the star, but you don't start babbling on about your own loss. Another person's spotlight isn't the place for it. But if you're also a narcissist then you may not be able to process that concept.
Suffering isn't and shouldn't be used as social currency. You have a society where people vie for attention and credibility based on their claimed suffering and it's due, in part, to what I've explained to you.
If I were concerned with upvotes and positive online opinions from total strangers then I would attempt to pander to people. I'm not so I don't.
You are a sad, sad little person. and you have my pity.
You really are so freaking clueless.
How about this, comment in the way that you feel is appropriate, and let others do the same! Nobody cares about your opinion, and you aren't the comment police. You have an overinflated sense of importance that makes you think anyone even gives a shit about your opinion or condemnation.
And yet you still can't grasp what kind of narcissistic pedantic a*shole you are being.
f*cking Kek.
I didn't tell that person what to or not to say. You probably try to bully others with such tactics in-person. It leads me to surmise you're big and dumb and people can't stand it when you get emotional...which is often.
The explanation given to you was to help you understand but you done gone and got lost in the single additional detail, which was only provided to help you differentiate authentic praise from manipulative-let's-turn-the-spotlight-to-me praise. To reiterate, "you" doesn't always hold meaning of the second person, sometimes it is means the same as "people in general."
Ask yourself why you are here, trying to dictate to a total stranger what they can or can't write according to how see fit, all while claiming no one cares what the stranger wrote. Maybe you're trying to express control in an aspect of life because you eat too much and can't control that?
I invite you to have the last word, my melon-headed antagonist.
You used your last word incorrectly...the word you were looking for is anonymously.
Validation? From who? Are you even thinking?
But please, try again with the last word.
You sought out engagement with me, not the other way around. Your opinion of me is none of my business.
My intent wasn't to come off as intelligent, it's just you're really really easy to read. You're big, kind of fat, accustomed to imposing himself and his opinions on others, and it's now clear you run from your fears.
Best of luck.
Maybe you get your self-worth when you think anonymous strangers "respect" you, that's your problem.
And I wrote "kind of fat," which you clearly are, now, please, go take a crap then tell everyone about it until they give you the respect you deserve.
You lost a long time ago. It's over.
No seriously that’s some nice design whoever planned that top.
Like this ep1.pinkbike.org/p4pb13413039/p4pb13413039.jpg